It is funny how the busiest city in America, where you are surrounded by so many people, can sometimes feel lonely. When I began my journey at TC, I did not know a soul. I upped my entire life that I had cultivated for 24 years and moved from Texas to the hustle and bustle of the Big Apple. For me specifically, my program, Private School Leadership, is so niche that I did not know who I would meet or if I would even make friends. 

Something no one ever talks about is how grad school is such a different ball game from undergrad. The diverse age range, backgrounds, upbringings, and stages of life can be a blessing and a curse. It is great because we can all learn from each other, but that also means everyone’s social circle is very different. Knowing that I struggled through the transition, I can only imagine additional barriers for others, like significant time differences or navigating a new cultural context in America. This is why finding your safe space at TC is so important. 

With the overwhelming adjustment to a new program, making friends and creating a little support group is important. In my experience, some members of my cohort and I have gotten really close. Together, we problem-solve situations, grieve missed opportunities, laugh when things do not go according to plan, and act as sounding boards when navigating new territory. In just a few months, the people around you who were once collaborators are now lifelong friends and cheerleaders.

I remember one time when I was in class, and I felt a fever coming on; my head was not in the game. I couldn’t focus, and I felt awful. I was having an internal debate about whether I should tough it out or leave early. Mid-thought, my friend looked over and said, “I know you are not feeling well. Please go home, and I will make sure you have everything you miss.” It was such a small gesture in her mind, but she made me feel seen. I had a friend I could depend on. I belonged to a group; I had people who had my back. Yes, building and nurturing that takes time, but it certainly makes this great city a little less lonely. 

By: Milana Ramkissoon